GUILT COMES FROM NOT DOING SOMETHING INSTEAD OF DOING SOMETHING WRONG. I DESCRIBE IT AS A "HIGHLY CONTAGIOUS SPIRIT-CRUSHING-VIRUS"

Guilt-tripping parents are trying to get their own needs met and they go about it in a manipulative way by making their children feel bad in order to get what they want. Guilt is a driving force behind creating neurotic behavior and does a great job of destroying lives. Both my mother and biological father came from miserable upbringings filled with anger, shame, negativity and abandonment.  My grandmother (a doormat) had the measles when she gave birth to my mother.  As a result, she was born deaf (although she still demands I say hearing impaired).  She used her physical disability like a sophisticated weapon of war.  Back in the "good old days", physical disabilities were something to be ashamed of and my mother's family coddled her for her beauty and disability but also shared society's shame over it too...leading to her becoming a pathological narcissist.   My stepfather is a covert narcissist with antisocial personality disorder who enabled my mother and gaslighted me.  Even today, I am still working hard to recover from that damage.

 

Guilt

Feeling guilt is an emotion that daughters of narcissistic mothers are used to. Our mother uses that guilt as a powerful weapon to keep us responding to her wishes. Part of the false image that a narcissist constructs is the belief that he or she can do no wrong. So when things do go wrong, the narcissist’s child gets the blame. The narcissist heaps guilt upon the child. This is done so many times that before long, the child starts to feel guilty for everything.

 

Guilt trips are bullying attempts to control another person’s behavior by making them feel ashamed or embarrassed about their actions. 


"A Guilt trip is a form of psychological abuse. Some psychologists may call it emotional manipulation. I call it bullying" - Ranzi @ HubPages

 
 

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